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  • How I made a CHOICE and found my calling

    When I started college I had no idea what I wanted to devote my entire life to.  I knew I was passionate, artistic, ambitious and organized, but I didn't know what career to choose.  

    It was actually pretty daunting to have lived so long without very much choice and then be expected to make the biggest decision that would determine the course of my life at age 18. It felt crazy for me to choose a major just because I had reached that age and the time had come for me to choose. 

    So I started asking older and wiser people for advice about what they majored in for college and how that played out in their life.  

    The advice I received again and again was, "Choose based on what you love to do.  The rest will figure itself out."  Many people shared with me that what they chose to study when they were young didn't determine the rest of their life. Many also shared they wished they had chose what they loved rather than choosing out of other people's expectations for them.

    I was relieved, because I had many talents and interests and simply needed more time to try them all.  I wanted to find what really felt right.  I didn't just want to prepare myself for a job, I wanted to find my calling. 

    Marianne Williamson says, "A job is an exchange of energy in which you do a material task and someone provides money in exchange.  A calling, however, is an organic field of energy that emerges from the deepest aspects of who you are.  It is the fulfillment of what God has created you to be and do. 

    You have a calling simply because you are alive. 

    You are on this earth with divine purpose: to rise to your highest creative possibility, expressing all that you are to make the universe a more beautiful place."


    I felt this from a young age, that I had a calling and needed to give myself the time and space to ask and discover what it was.  

    It wasn't until after college I really started asking the bigger questions and had a desire to move to San Francisco.  That intuitive move led me to meet one of my very first spiritual teachers (Amma), which led me to become a yoga teacher and travel to India.

    Sometimes my ego would enter and say, "You need to just get a job.  You need to get real."  But I knew my soul was bigger than that.  I did try different jobs and internships but was always called back to ask about this "something bigger."

    So how did I make a choice and find my calling?

    I learned to:

    1. Listen to my intuition.  With each job I tried, I noticed how it felt to be doing that job.  I asked, "Do I want to be doing this for the rest of my life?"

    2. Give myself time and space to ask the bigger questions without a need for an answer.  I learned the answers only come when I am ready for them.

    Even though I chose a major of what I loved to do (photography), my life continued to unfold.  My own discomfort in my body, exhaustion and anxiety led me to yoga and my own healing through nutrition led me to become a health coach.  

    Life unfolded the path for me and with commitment to asking the bigger questions, I found the fulfillment that only living your calling can fulfill. 

    So maybe you are just stepping out into life on your own and want to discover this deeper calling, or maybe you have been in a job for years and don't yet feel like you've found that larger sense of purpose... 

    Wherever you are in your career, remember: It's never too late to be who you were born to be. {tweet it} 

    If you feel called to create the space for yourself to ask these bigger life questions, join me tonight for"Purpose" the final call in a series of three teleseminars.  

    I'll be sharing more of my personal insights, stories and inspiration, as well as leading a guided writing exercise for each person to open to their unique purpose.  You can sign up here to get the access code and a recording of all three calls (Magic, Power and Purpose) in your inbox tomorrow.  

    You'll also hear more details about my upcoming group program where I will be guiding a group of women to open to their purpose and create a new vision for their life.  

    With love, 
    Meredith 

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  • Facing that fear will make you feel more ALIVE. Here's how to do it.

    A few weeks ago I went to one of the most beautiful places in the world, Esalen Resort in Big Sur, California.  I wanted to celebrate my birthday in the most relaxed way possible.  Over my three days there, I soaked in the hot springs, received a massage, and slept a lot, but by the end of the three days, I didn't feel as great as I wanted to.  I felt more sleepy and lethargic than when I arrived!  I wondered, "Why don't I feel like my normal alive and passionate self?  Is it possible to feel too relaxed?"

    It wasn't until a week later on the phone with one of my health coaching clients that I realized what was missing.  This client came to me to balance her hormones naturally.  She hadn't had a period for over a year, so we worked together to make changes in her diet and lifestyle.  Within a month her period started and she was ecstatic to have her hormones back on track.  We then focused on her relationship to food, and she started feeling better both emotionally and physically. However, at this particular session she shared, "I'm feeling so much better in my body and with my relationship to food, but I still feel like there's something missing....  I don't feel vibrant...and I don't feel as ALIVE as I'd like to."

    I thought for a moment and replied, "You know, the times in my life when I feel most alive are when I face my fears.  I used to be so afraid to teach yoga.  It was one of my biggest fears, and now, every time I do it, I feel so alive and proud of myself.  Do you have anything like that in your life?" 

    She replied, "No, I think that's it!  I need to do something that scares me!"  

    So I gave her an assignment that night to start thinking about what would both excite and scare her.  I thought back to that weekend at Esalen and realized that was it.  I wasn't being challenged enough.  It was nice to relax and all, but I didn't feel totally alive and vibrant because I wasn't challenging myself.  

    I realized, I need to consistently step out of my comfort zone in order to feel totally alive. 

    Even Eleanor Roosevelt says, “The very next thing you need to be doing is what terrifies you the most.” {tweet it}

    It's kind of like the universe is pointing you in that direction!

    So what's something that scares you?  Can you commit to facing that fear, knowing how good it will make you feel?  Or do you feel stuck and the idea of facing your fear is too overwhelming?  

    If you are curious about how to face your fear, and want to fully step into your power, join me tonight for my free teleseminar  at 6 pm pacific for "Power," the second class in a series of 3 free phone calls.  You'll learn 5 truths about fear, inspiration to feel the fear and do it anyway, and my 5 action steps to stop procrastinating, face your fear and move forward with your life!   

    You'll also hear more details about my upcoming group program where I will be guiding an intimate group of women to face their fears to make their vision a reality.  

    I'd love to hear your stories about facing fear below in the comments.  What is your fear?  How did you overcome it? and how did that make you feel? Share your story! Can't wait to hear from you...

    Love, 
    Meredith 

  • How I started earning more money doing what I love (and other insights on manifestation)

    This past January I participated in a potent Heart Vision practice I learned from yoga teacher Sianna Sherman.  Every day I did this practice consisting of meditation, pranayama, chanting, mantra, mudra and quite literally, standing up to declare my heart vision for 40 days.  

    So what is a heart vision? And what was I saying everyday?  

    A heart vision is a written and spoken intention of your highest self.  It is written and spoken in the present tense to tune yourself to this highest power and start living the vision.  

    Here are some lines from my heart vision: 

    • I am financially independent.  I am earning my living through doing what I love: teaching yoga and health coaching
    • I am participating in female mentorship and collaboration
    • I am fulfilling my soul's purpose 
    • I am teaching others to rest, align, and love themselves first
    • I am breaking through my blocks and fears to have an amazing 6 month program for my clients
    • I am an inspiration to everyone around me
    • I am touching the lives of more people through my teachings

    Every day I stood up and read my heart vision out loud.  It is a powerful practice to imagine your future self and then voice that intention in the present tense, every day, for 40 consecutive days.  

    So what happened after 40 days?

    • My yoga schedule shifted: I was asked to teach a new class with higher attendance
    • My other yoga classes started having higher attendance
    • I had a phone call with a female mentor I look up to, (and the teacher of the 40 day practice herself): Sianna
    • I built relationships with Sianna's team and even had a chance meeting with them in New York to talk about my ideas for mentorship and collaboration 
    • New female mentors in my life appeared.  Wise older female yoga teachers became accessible to me where I live
    • I brought in $500 more per month through doing what I love: yoga and health coaching 

    And the biggest thing that happened on day 40 of the practice: 

    • 15 people directly told me "You are an inspiration!" or "You inspire me!" These came through comments on facebook, messages, emails and text messages for a variety of different reasons all on the same day - the last day of my heart vision practice. One source was from this facebook Post 

    I couldn't believe it. 15 people from all directions telling me the exact words I used in my heart vision practice??

    What I realized from all of this was that I was tuning my energy to become what I was saying.  Every morning when I said, "I am an inspiration to everyone around me," my actions were guided throughout the day.  I was subconsciously choosing to speak from a place of guidance and live from my heart.  I was listening to my intuition and the posts I made on social media were inspiring others. 

    When you consistently imagine your highest vision for yourself, you begin to believe it and become it. {tweet it}

    Needless to say, I am a strong believer in holding a vision and having a consistent practice to manifest that vision. 

    It can create dramatic change in your life to shift your thoughts.  You will start receiving the guidance you need to reach your goals.   You will suddenly be in the right place at the right time.  You will find yourself sitting next to just the right person you need to meet.  Ideas will drop into your mind and you won't know where they came from!

    So, if you are curious about manfestation, and want to hear more about my 40 day practice, be sure to sign up for my free teleseminar tomorrow night at 6 pm pacific for "Magic," the first class in a series of 3 free phone calls.  You'll learn my top 3 tips for a manifestation, 6 key steps for a manifestation practice, and a group guided meditation.

    You'll also be the first to hear about my upcoming group program where I will be teaching a 40 day practice for an intimate group of women to support each other in manifesting their vision.

    I'd love to hear your stories of manifestation over on the insights blog.  Have you ever changed your thoughts and saw them manifest in your daily life?  If so, share your story in the comments! 

    Love, 

    Meredith

  • Why it's so important to have a Vision

    Last week on the spring equinox I invited my students to create a vision.  Everyone took time to write and consciously imagine their higher selves, their bigger world vision, and their purpose in that vision.  


    So why is it so important to have a vision?

    For the last three years I have asked myself again and again, "Why am I here?" and "What is my larger life purpose?" I've come back to these questions over and over, and in doing so, have developed a business that supports both my life, but also my larger vision for the world.

    Having a vision creates clarity and clarity creates power. {Tweet it}
     
    Five years is going to roll around whether you want it to or not, so why not consciously design it? 

    Having a vision doesn't mean you have to stick to it.  It just means you know where you're going.  

    If you're setting out on a road trip to Florida, it's good to know your destination.  That doesn't mean you might not change course and have a pit stop in New York along the way, but at least you are headed in the general right direction.  

    The problem is, sometimes we don't exactly know what we want.  I remember the pain of not knowing my purpose, not having a vision for my life or the world.  I even remember sitting on the top of a mountain in Mexico on a vision quest at my yoga teacher training asking again and again, "Why am I here?" and still not knowing the answer.  It can be hard to not know and not have community or a guide to lead you on your path.  

    That's why I created a 6-month group program for women, Let go, Vision, Transform.  If you're feeling stuck, looking for a new direction, ready to discover your vision, face your fears and strengthen your voice, I invite you to apply to this elite online phone based program beginning at the end of May.  

    I am gathering a small group of women to support each other and open to the vision for their life and the world. I will lead a series of calls on health, self-care and nutrition so each woman can start feeling energized, naturally beautiful and confident to start owning her dreams.  We will then shift focus to finding fulfillment through career, personal finances, and relationships.  After focusing on ourselves, we will open to a larger vision for the world.  I will have two private coaching calls with each woman to develop her vision, and on the last 40 days I will teach a manifestation practice for each woman to turn that vision into reality.  This will be a very close bonding experience where each woman will be fully supported to grow by leaps and bounds.

    Visit http://meredithrom.com/programs

    Over the last three years I've done the work to discover my vision, face my fears, and strengthen my voice to make an impact.  Now I am hear to help you to make yours.

    Love, 
    Meredith 

  • How I Cured My Headaches

    Seven years ago I was stressed out, had chronic pain throughout my body, and terrible headaches that started behind my eye that moved down my neck all the way down my arm.  My jaw was tense, I used the computer way too much, and had little to no tools on how to deal with stress.  After visiting many doctors, having an MRI, meeting with physical therapists and sports therapists, I still had no solution better than pain killers.  One doctor even diagnosed my pain as fibromyalgia and wanted to start me on antidepressants.  Sadly, no one ever asked me about my lifestyle, my diet, looked at subtle physical misalignments or the amount of stress in my life.

    It was around this time I started going to donation based yoga classes in a packed studio in New York City.  I would struggle through the one hour class waiting for that brief moment in savasana, the final resting pose, when I could experience peace.  The pain in my body would subside, my busy mind would quiet down, and I could have a glimpse of my true nature aspeaceful.  

    When I became a yoga teacher three years ago, I vowed to help others heal chronic pain in theirbody, the way my teachers had helped me.  Over the years I have cleared misalignments in mybody through yoga and dramatically changed my lifestyle to eliminate the high stress levels I was experiencing.  I attended workshops and trainings on therapeutic yoga with Sianna Sherman, and really came to have a deeper understanding of my body.  I no longer felt helpless, because when pain arose, I knew how to clear it. 

    When I moved to Sebastopol, I found fellow Anusara trained teacher, Mark Lundbeck.  Mark has experienced similar profound healing in his own body through yoga, and even spent 12 years in Tahoe incorporating yoga principles of therapeutics into physcial therapy offices in Tahoe. 

    For the last seven months I have been attending Mark's private therapeutic sessions, diving into the world of biomechanical alignment principles and seeing profound empowerment and physical change in his clients.  Through these sessions I have learned so much about my ownbody and have become a better teacher to my students.  

    I'm proud to be leading my first yoga therapeutics workshop with Mark this Sunday at Alive Yoga.  If you are interested in clearing pain from your own body (from misalignment or injury), want to deepen your understanding and practice of yoga, or are a teacher and want to gain more knowledge for your students, I highly recommend you attend.  

    Love, 
    Meredith 

    P.S. Read about 5 Natural Cures for headaches here

  • Give Yourself Total Permission to Fail

    “You want folks to like, respect, and even admire what you’ve created, but your self-worth is not on the table.  You know that you are far more than a painting, an innovative idea, an effective pitch, a good sermon, or a high Amazon.com ranking.  Yes it will be disappointing and difficult if your friends or colleagues don’t share your enthusiasm, or if things don’t go well, but this effort is about what you do, not who you are.  Regardless of the outcome, you’ve already dared greatly, and that’s totally aligned with your values with who you want to be.”  

    -Brene Brown from Daring Greatly 

    You are not the same as the value of your ideas, and just in putting your ideas out there, you are daring greatly.  You are an inspiration.  You are living in line with your values no matter what the outcome.  

    How does this relate to being a yoga teacher?  Getting up in front of the room to share your heart is vulnerable.  Doing anything that is close to your heart is vulnerable!  

    However the pain of not doing it, will eventually outweigh the risk of doing it anyway.  

    This has been a motivation in my life.  

    I am growing fast and coming up with all kinds of ideas to spread my knowledge and help women overcome their fears, including this 6-month group program for women, but a few weeks ago, I realized my fear of failure was preventing me from even trying.  

    I want to have a career where I teach people to align their body, open their heart, face their fears, let themselves rest and love themselves first, but if I don't put the word out about my programs, services and offerings, just because of the fear of failing, I never give myself the chance to succeed.  

    Through re-reading Daring Greatly, I saw that even if I fail, at least I was honoring my values of taking risks and facing my fears.  Just in doing that, I will be an inspiration.  And I will open the doors to my own success.

    Let this be motivation for what you want to do or create.  Give yourself total permission to fail, because ultimately it's not about winning or losing, it's simply about being vulnerable enough to put yourself in the arena.  

  • Love is What We Were Born With, Fear is What We Learned Here

    "Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learned here. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life."

    ~Marianne Williamson

    What if our whole spiritual purpose was to unlearn all the fear in our lives?  Fear is not something we were born with.  When we were children we were full of love, curiosity and joy.  The world was an enchanting place full of mystery.  

    So what happened over those years as we grew older?  We learned fear.  Our conditioning from society showed us there was much to  be afraid of.  

    In the book, The Mists of Avalon there is an enchanted island surrounded by thick mists.  The only way the mists would part and a ship could find the island was if the people on the ship believed the island was there.  

    This is symbolic in our lives as well: there is enchantment and sacredness in each day, but we won't be able to see it unless we believe it is there.  The miracles won't happen unless we believe they exist.  There is a whole mystery of the universe at work, but sometimes we are living too much in our fear to realize it~

  • 6 Secrets to a Fulfilling Love Life

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    This month I am celebrating love.

    With Valentine’s Day and my two-year anniversary in February, I am reflecting on what makes me feel fulfilled in my relationship.

    Is it the dinner dates? Is it when he takes out the trash and I don’t even have to ask? Those things definitelybring happiness, but unfortunately, it doesn’t last forever. I’ve found fulfillment is something much deeper than fleeting happiness.

    Fulfillment is about knowing what I want, believing I am worth it, loving myself utterly and completely before someone else even enters the picture and having the courage to own my vision and live my dreams.

    I created this list to share the big lessons I have learned about true fulfillment when it comes to love:

    1. I Learned to Love Myself First

    Women are natural nurturers. We love to give. However, we need to nurture ourselves first so we don’t get burnt out. By loving ourselves first, we can be more present and have more energy to give to those we love.

    The days I do my meditation and yoga practice, go for a run, take a long shower (or on a good day, a bath) and rub my favorite homemade cacao body butter over my body, are the days I literally emanate beauty. Those are the days my partner notices my shift in energy and showers me with love. Those are the days I live with ease and grace, I radiate positivity, and attract exactly what I need in my life.

    When we take care of ourselves and love ourselves first, we align with the love of the universe and attract more love into our life.

    2. I Figured Out What I Was Looking For, Then I Believed in it

    I was longing for love for months before I reunited with my current partner. I was healing from heartbreak, and despite my grief, I knew I would be with a man who also longed for the commitment and the spiritual growth I was seeking.

    As a New Year resolution, I wrote out what I wanted and believed it was possible. “I see myself in a loving, committed relationship with an attractive, ambitious, and spiritual man. He is someone who nurtures and supports me, while giving me freedom to grow my wings.”

    Just one month later, magically, at Amma’s devi bhava celebration, I found myself reunited with a man I had met (and adored) years earlier. After a year of traveling, it just so happened we were living in the same city again.

    So often we yearn for love, but when it comes to specifics, we don’t know the first thing we are looking for. I learned to first figure out the “what,” then imagined the feeling and qualities of that person surrounding me.

    3. I Listened to My Intuition

    This is key to honoring ourselves, being in the right place at the right time, and deepening a connection with a person you are already with. I followed my intuition to leave a relationship that was not honoring me, and six months later was with that attractive, ambitious and spiritual man who adored me.

    So many times I learned to honor my soul’s wisdom, listen to the dreams in my sleep and that little voice that knew what choices to make. By creating space in my life for meditation and yogic practices that strengthened my intuition, I created work for myself that honors my heart, and found a relationship that honors my worth.

    4. I Learned to Ask For What I Want

    When we know how we want to be loved, we have to ask for it! I have a friend who wanted to receive beautifully written cards from her beloved. All she wanted for her anniversary or birthday was a hand written card or notes from him around the house. As every special holiday or anniversary came and passed, there was no card, and no notes, and she was left disappointed. However, she never told her partner she wanted a card or a note!

    We can’t expect the people we love to know exactly what we want. When we ask for what we want, we empower others to fulfill our request.

    On my anniversary this month I woke up and knew exactly what I wanted: a vegan banana pancake breakfast served in bed with a serenade from my partner. He was happy to fulfill my request and it was an unforgettable way to start the day. Over the years, it has become less scary for me to ask for exactly what I want, and I’ve realized it is an essential step to living my dreams.

    5. I Learned to Lead By Example

    This is so key to not just having a fulfilling love life, but to having a fulfilling life. When I first started living with my partner and was unemployed, I wanted my partner to earn more money and take care of me financially. Then I realized my desires for my partner were a reflection of what I wanted for myself. I wanted to make more money and find fulfilling work, but I was putting it on him to do it for me. I saw it would be a lot better use of my time to focus on myself, rather than trying to change my partner.

    When we want our partner to change, we can see it as a reflection of something we want to change in ourselves. People don’t change because someone wants them to. People change because they are inspired to.

    I took charge of my finances, started school, and in addition to teaching yoga, took on clients as a health coach. The funny thing is, as I focused on my business, and myself my partner started making more money as well.

    We think the problem is outside of ourselves, when in reality there is always a next step we can take in our own life right now, to bring us closer to what we want. By owning our desires, we can watch our money (and our love life) prosper.

    6. I Learned to Initiate Communication

    Whenever I came to a spot where I could tell my partner was upset, but did not want to talk, I learned how to initiate communication.

    I used the exercise “Acknowledgement and Request” from Terces and Matthew Engelhart, founders of Café Gratitude. It can be used not only in love relationships, but also in work relationships, family relationships, and friendships.

    Simply ask: “Do you have anything you want to be acknowledged for?”

    Your partner may be thrown off for a minute, but be patient, and listen intently. When your partner responds, ask, “Is there anything else?”

    Continue asking, “Is there anything else?” until your partner has nothing else they would like to be acknowledged for. Repeat back and acknowledge your partner for everything he or she brought up.

    When you finish ask, “Now, do you have any requests?”

    Listen to each of the requests and then repeat back each one, saying you will do your very best to honor them.

    This simple exercise has opened the doors of communication for my relationship so many times.

    It’s too easy to forget to acknowledge the person I love and appreciate most in my life. Being acknowledged is kind of like hearing “I love you.” We need to hear it more than once to maintain a constant level of connection and appreciation.

    I’ve learned love isn’t something I can force. However, I can focus on my own fulfillment, my heart, and myself. I’ve learned love will find me there.

    This article was also published on Elephant Journal

  • 10 Guideposts to Wholehearted Living

    I've been re-reading Brene Brown's Daring Greatly this month as part of my Young Women's Yoga Sangha required reading for the group.  As I've practiced yoga this week, I have reminded myself that my yoga mat is the place where I began to let go of all of the below.  It was the place I could let go of what other people think, the need for comparison and certainty, and especially letting go of anxiety of a lifestyle. 

    It is our choice to live with that which does not serve us.  This year, why not let go of it and focus on what is truly nourishing to you?  

    Here is Brene's list from the first few pages in Daring Greatly. 

    1.  Cultivating Authenticity:  Letting Go of What People Think

    2.  Cultivating Self-Compassion: Letting Go of Perfectionism

    3.  Cultivating a Resilient Spirit:  Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness

    4.  Cultivating Gratitude and Joy:  Letting Go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark

    5.  Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith:  Letting Go of the Need for Certainty

    6.  Cultivating Creativity:  Letting Go of Comparison

    7.  Cultivating Play and Rest:  Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth 

    8.  Cultivating Calm and Stillness:  Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle 

    9.  Cultivating Meaningful Work:  Letting Go of Self-Doubt and "Supposed To"

    10.  Cultivating Laughter, Song and Dance:  Letting Go of Being Cool and "Always in Control"

  • The Gayatri Mantra

    Om

    Bhur Bhuvah Svaha
    Tat Savitur Varenyam
    Bhargo Devasya Dhimahi
    Dhiyo Yo nah Prachodayat

    Gayatri means to go beyond, to transcend.
    That is why we pray (through the chant of the Gayatri):

    "Let this intellect be guided and inspired by something which is beyond the intellect – the Divinity."  - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

    It is a prayer to the sun - the giver of life and light.  With this mantra we ask, "May our own intellect and being shine like the sun and may we each be guided in the right direction." - Sianna Sherman

    Another translation, "In the name of the Earth and Heavens, may we be as bright as the divine spirit by the power of our meditation." 

    I've been singing this mantra every morning for the past two weeks.  To me, it is a way to call upon the bright light of my spirit.  I pray this light shine brighter than my fears.  May my divine purpose and path shine in front of me, and may any darkness or blocks in the way be transformed into this light.  

    Here is a beautiful version to listen to the gayatri mantra:

    May you connect to this light of your spirit in your yoga practice and throughout your day... 

    Namaste <3